25th in life
Quarter life crisis age.. but I had a superb birthday this year!I should say it's one of the best birthdays i ever had. I received my first handmade cookies from zc! Exactly a month ago, he has started to make a small booklet recording down his thoughts throughout the preparation for my birthday gift. I am very touched because I never know someone would spend so much time and effort for me.. =)
THANK YOU LOTSA! It's the sweetest birthday I ever had =)
I witnessed today.. what is so called playing with office politics..I was having lunch with two of my colleagues, one is my mentor. They were telling me about my partner not looking at the leave planner again before she decides to take leave. She is taking leave on 26 Nov and I think one of the colleagues have actually blocked that day on the leave planner, meaning she wants to take too. Well.. actually I am covering for my partner and this colleague.. so when both of them are not around.. I will be very busy. So the colleagues said why she never go see planner one before she decided to take leave. My take on this is she doesn't care who else is taking leave as long as the person is not me. Then they said may be she has forgotten she needs to come back on 27 Nov 09.. Hari Raya. Well.. my partner has not forgotten that someone needs to come back on 27 Nov 09 but she thought naively that it is still not confirmed who is coming back to work this time.. so she decided to take. I asked her.. who came back the last time? She replied' You la".. then I asked her" Then who should be coming back this time since the last time is me right?"She said "i thought not confirm yet who is coming back... ok I can come back"Seriously I know she dun meant any malice.. she just thinks so naively.. it is quite obvious we are partners and should always take turns to come back, just like the other team. This kind of thing dun need people to say.. =P Then she suddenly remembered she needs to cover the admin guy on 26 Nov 09. Oh oh! Finally she said she will cancel her leave on 26 Nov 09, this is just as what the other two colleagues expected. They concluded during lunch that she has forgotten she needs to come back on 27 Nov 09 and will probably cancel her leave on 26 Nov 09 when she realised. Then my blur partner told me she already took leave on 2 Dec 09 but I dun see any marking on my calendar regarding her leave. Thus I went e-portal and checked.. no leave approval for her yet . I told her go see the leave calendar on e-portal.." You have not apply leave on 2 Dec 09!" My goodness.. dunno how she can be so blur!
During lunch the two colleagues were discussing about the previous ' leave saga'. They said our team lead is so shewd to throw the ball back to us.. and I actually fell into their so called trap. What happened was my teamlead and another colleague took leave during the same period of time. My dear partner happily went to apply the same period.. trying her luck to see if she can take the same period too. My head was unhappy because now there are three people applying for the same stretch.. he questioned why we never go see leave planner before applying. My partner was the last to apply leave.. and it is quite obvious the fault is hers. Anyway my team lead decided to throw the ball at me and my mentor.. she sent us an email whether we are ok with the three of them on leave. I did not think so much about it and replied ok.. because they are taking in Dec and it is supposedly a super lull period. The colleagues commented I should not reply that way because if anything happens and I can't cope.. she can shoot me because I said ok. Wah.. seriously I din think that much. I realised how naive I am.. must learn how to protect myself in office. I believe my partner is as naive in her thinking like me.. may be we haven't work in society for long. our 3 years compared to their 10-20 years? Gulpss.. we are small frys waiting to be eaten up.
I am quite sian of my colleagues complaining to me about my partner. I know they want me to talk to her because sometimes she did not realise the consequences of her actions. She is the same age as me and I can't be mentoring her throughout right? I am not a mother hen..
Ganbatte!
Finally it is over.. but there are still many things to attend to. I know she will move on and continue to love and take good care of the rest of her loved ones..her strength and optimism in life amazed me. I realize the unhappy things I encountered in life are so insignificant.. I shouldn't grumble or be discontent with life because I am not fit to do so.. when I have never even experience the worst in life before. I have seen life in a different way because of her. I do hope I can make a little difference to her life just by being there for her.
Ganbatte my dearest friend! *Hugs
Just cut and dyed my hair recently.. still not used to the new bright colour and shorter fringe.. I hope my fringe will grow faster. I look a bit weird with this new hairstyle.. never mind what’s done can’t be undone. Maybe if I pull my fringe a little everyday, it will be longer? =P
My 5 days block leave is next week but I still don’t have any plans yet. What should I do?
Shall meet R soon! =) Feel like going somewhere to relax but I don’t want anyhow spend money. Dilemma.. Shall think of new ways to earn extra bucks.. time to do some new investments.
PS: OK shall cut down..
2 gers
I smiled to sleep yesterday night. It seems a long time ago that I had such fun and laughter! Thanks R! I really enjoyed myself yesterday. It feels like back in secondary school days where we bitched about the seniors or teachers.. just that now we bitch about work and colleagues. R, let’s catch a movie soon or go for a shopping spree! Or we can have your favourite food feast! Yea! The one and only buddy who eats as much as I do and is not ashamed of it =)
Yesterday R was telling me the strict dress code in her office. I was laughing at her that there is no dress down Friday for her and this Friday morning, our HR came to our level and announced that there will be no wearing of T shirts and jeans on Friday! It means from now on we need to wear formal attire the whole week.
My direct boss sent us a kind REMINDER email shortly after..
“Hi All,
Edmund ( the head of operations) just gave us a morning lecture about working attire. (apparently , JLA ( my CEO) has send a 'warning' mail to all the Line Heads)
It has been observed that even on weekdays (Mon - Thur), some operation colleagues are not wearing a proper formal working attire.
Now, HR has just going around telling everyone not to wear jeans on Friday only, please also ensure that we adhere to the formal dressing code even on normal weekdays.
Ps: it would be a pleasant sight if all the ladies can wear skirts everyday… right, ade? “
My boss sounds so duh in his last statement.. well that’s the usual him. No wonder he wears formal attire today! He usually wears a shirt with JEANS! He must have gotten news of it before this morning.
Going to continue the fun with A and C today! Hope we get seats! Can’t wait to start my weekends soon. Feeling in high spirits after the recharged session with R. =)
Friends
Love between friends has been revolving in my mind lately. I start to think about the definition of good friends.. good friends should accept each other’s weakness even though you may disagree to how they behave? Or good friends should point out each other’s weakness and try to help each other change for the better? Good friends will be able to take the criticisms and remain as close or will they turn nasty and drift apart? I guess only your truest friends dare to criticize and correct you.. They will not indulge you in your own spoilt ways. If I need to think twice about telling, it only means your friendship is not deep enough to withstand the tension or unhappiness. Were you really good friends?
Good friends will be sincerely happy for you when good things come your way.
They would not feel uncomfortable or unhappy because they did not get it like you did. You can feel their warm wishes for you.. how they really hope the very best for you. Good friends try their effort to remain as close even though things have changed. It always takes two hands to clap. I guess I have accepted that what is lost cannot be salvaged.. some things can never be the same. Despite that, I know I still have others who always wish the best for me.
Suddenly thinking of the long friendship I had with my bestie! 19 years of friendship together and still counting! Although now we don’t play together as much but whenever I feel troubled I like to talk to her. She always gives me positive energy whenever I feel despondent. Having one such friend is enough for this lifetime. =) Yea bestie! Hugs!
